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November 14, 2022

The Hidden Barrier Between You and Success

Many people assume the biggest obstacles to success come from outside themselves—a difficult boss, lack of opportunity, limited resources, or bad timing. While those challenges certainly exist, I've found that the most persistent barrier is often internal. We hesitate to begin, wait for permission, avoid honest self-reflection, or postpone action until we feel completely ready. Over time I've realized that progress usually begins when we stop waiting for someone else to unlock the door and start taking responsibility for walking through it ourselves.

November 5, 2022

Why You Keep Hitting the Same Setbacks in Life (And How to Break the Cycle)

Most people don't experience just one setback. They experience the same kinds of setbacks over and over again. Different jobs. Different relationships. Different goals. Yet somehow the same frustrations keep returning. We feel stuck, wonder why progress seems so difficult, and begin believing life is simply happening to us. Over the years, I've found it helpful to separate two ideas that often get lumped together: roadblocks and setbacks. They aren't the same thing, and understanding the difference changed how I approach problems, make decisions, and recover when life doesn't go according to plan. If we learn to recognize which challenges are standing in our way and which have already changed our circumstances, we can respond far more intentionally instead of simply reacting.

October 25, 2020

8 Mistakes Writers Make That Hold Them Back

Most writers want better results. Better feedback. Better engagement. Better stories. Better responses from readers, agents, editors, or publishers. But improving our writing usually means confronting uncomfortable truths about the way we work. Here are 8 mistakes that quietly weaken otherwise promising writing — and what to do about them.

October 3, 2020

How to Stand Out by Becoming a Highlighter Person

Most people spend their lives trying to stand out by talking louder, promoting themselves more aggressively, or drawing attention to their own accomplishments. Yet the people who make the biggest impact are often doing the opposite. They listen before speaking. They elevate other people. They amplify good ideas. They create clarity in noisy environments. Years ago, my wife shared a simple phrase that completely changed how I think about influence: "Be a highlighter in a room full of crayons." The idea is simple but powerful. While crayons constantly draw attention to themselves, highlighters draw attention to what matters. This article explores why highlighter people are so rare, why they stand out, and how becoming one can transform your relationships, leadership, and influence.

July 11, 2020

Why Comparing Yourself to Other Creators Holds You Back

Many creative people struggle with self-doubt. Writers compare themselves to bestselling authors. Artists compare themselves to professionals with decades of experience. Entrepreneurs compare themselves to people who appear more successful, more talented, or further ahead. The problem isn't comparison itself. The problem is what comparison reveals about how we view ourselves. When self-worth is low, the success of others can feel threatening. When self-worth is healthy, the success of others becomes evidence of what is possible. The difference dramatically influences how we learn, create, and grow.

October 1, 2019

The Best Personal Development Books That Changed How I Think About Success

Personal development books have shaped my thinking more than almost any other form of education. While formal schooling taught me technical skills, books introduced me to ideas about discipline, leadership, communication, business, personal finance, creativity, and long-term growth. The right book can compress years of experience into a few hundred pages and expose us to perspectives we might never discover on our own. Over the years I've read hundreds of books, but a small handful have had an outsized impact on how I think, work, lead, and make decisions. These are the personal development books that influenced me the most and continue to shape my approach to success.

August 21, 2019

What to Do When You Think Everything You Write Is Bad

You've been there. Maybe you're there now. Everything you write is horrible. Terrible. It's the horrible, terrible, no good, very bad writing (day). Welcome to the club. Stay awhile. While you're here, you should know something. Everything you write probably isn't that bad. And even if it is sort of bad, that's OK because good writing comes from bad writing.

January 4, 2018

Why Positivity Is a Skill You Can Train (Not Just a Personality Trait)

Some people seem naturally optimistic while others struggle with negative thoughts, frustration, or discouragement. It's easy to assume positivity is simply part of someone's personality. I don't believe that's true. While our personalities influence how we see the world, our daily thoughts and reactions are habits we can strengthen over time. Just as we develop discipline, patience, or confidence through repeated choices, we can also train ourselves to respond to life's frustrations with greater perspective and self-control. That doesn't mean pretending problems don't exist or forcing fake happiness. It means learning to respond intentionally instead of reacting automatically. Positivity isn't about denying reality. It's about choosing the most helpful response to reality.