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November 7, 2022

How Social Media Quietly Steals Your Attention (And What to Do About It)

Social media isn't inherently good or bad. Like any powerful tool, it amplifies whatever habits we already have. It can help us stay connected, learn new ideas, grow a business, or encourage others. But it can also quietly consume our attention, distort our priorities, and become an escape from the life happening right in front of us. I know because I've experienced both sides. After spending years intentionally building a large online presence, I eventually realized the very tool that once helped me achieve my goals had become one of the biggest distractions from them.

September 19, 2019

Why Writing Shorter Helps You Write Longer

Big creative projects often feel overwhelming before they even begin. Whether you're writing a novel, launching a blog, building a business, or pursuing any long-term goal, it's easy to become fixated on the size of the finish line. The larger the project appears, the easier it becomes to procrastinate, overthink, or convince yourself you'll start tomorrow. Ironically, the people who produce the most work rarely focus on the finished product. They focus on the next small step. Learning to write longer often starts by learning to write shorter, reducing intimidating goals into manageable actions that can be repeated consistently over time.

September 18, 2019

Why Making Lists Brings Order to Chaos and Improves Productivity

Have you ever had trouble falling asleep because your brain is on overdrive? It's hard to turn off the switch when so many things need our attention. Human beings cannot think two thoughts at the exact same time. We can move between thoughts incredibly quickly, and we can act upon multiple thoughts at the same time (like compound exercises), but our brains are literally unable to take two inputs and process them at once. It's this natural proclivity to become overwhelmed that results in the effectiveness of making lists.

January 4, 2018

Why Positivity Is a Skill You Can Train (Not Just a Personality Trait)

Some people seem naturally optimistic while others struggle with negative thoughts, frustration, or discouragement. It's easy to assume positivity is simply part of someone's personality. I don't believe that's true. While our personalities influence how we see the world, our daily thoughts and reactions are habits we can strengthen over time. Just as we develop discipline, patience, or confidence through repeated choices, we can also train ourselves to respond to life's frustrations with greater perspective and self-control. That doesn't mean pretending problems don't exist or forcing fake happiness. It means learning to respond intentionally instead of reacting automatically. Positivity isn't about denying reality. It's about choosing the most helpful response to reality.

December 31, 2017

Why “New Year, New You” Fails (And What Actually Works Instead)

Every January millions of people decide this will finally be the year everything changes. They buy gym memberships. Start diets. Purchase planners. Create ambitious goals. And within weeks, many are right back where they started. The problem isn't a lack of desire. It's believing lasting change comes from one big decision instead of hundreds of small ones. Becoming a better version of yourself doesn't happen because the calendar changes. It happens because your daily habits do.

December 29, 2017

Why Endings Are Often New Beginnings

The end of a year always catches me by surprise. No matter how much we anticipate it, time seems to move faster than we expect. One moment we're making plans for January and the next we're looking back wondering where the last twelve months went. As I've gotten older, and especially after becoming a husband and father, I've become increasingly aware that life moves in seasons. Years end. Jobs change. Children grow. Goals evolve. But I've also learned something encouraging. Most endings are not really endings at all. They're beginnings in disguise.

September 1, 2017

How to Make Time for Your Goals When Life Feels Busy

Most people don't fail to achieve their goals because they lack ambition. They fail because life gets busy. Work expands. Family responsibilities grow. Unexpected obligations appear. Before long, the goals that once felt important get pushed further and further into the background. The challenge is that meaningful goals rarely arrive with extra time attached to them. If we want to make progress, we often have to intentionally create space for what matters rather than waiting for a perfect schedule that never arrives.